About The Grief Recovery Method® (GRM)
How does the Grief Recovery Method® define the broad extent of grief?
Grief is the normal and natural emotional response to change or loss of any kind – death, divorce, moving, financial changes, health changes, relationship changes and so on. Grief is also the result of unmet hopes, dreams and expectations and the loss of intangible concepts such as safety, trust, security, respect, faith and hope. Grief is universal. All of us have experienced grief throughout our lives, as a result of many changes and losses. But we are not well prepared to really handle, manage or recover from the emotional impact which results from these changes and losses.
How does the GRM explain why we are so ill prepared to recover from our grief, if it's a normal and natural response?
Just as our grief is universal, the ineffective ways of dealing with it are also pretty universal. Often, the way we manage our grief is the same (or similar to) the ways our parents and other key figures in our lives have managed theirs. In addition to parents and key family members, we also learn ineffective tools for dealing with grief from other key adults in our lives as we are growing up – teachers, clergy, coaches, counsellors, even the media, tv and music personalities.
Grief is an emotional response, yet often we try to ease our grief by using intellectual tools – we try to “figure it out,” “solve it” or “understand” it. Just as if we were asked to paint a room, but were only given a hammer and a screw driver, we cannot accomplish the task of recovering from grief with inappropriate tools. If we were given a paint brush, paint and a drop cloth, we could indeed paint a room. Given the proper emotional tools, we can also achieve recovery from our grief. That’s what the Grief Recovery Method® provides – the appropriate emotional tools for doing this work.
How does the Grief Recovery Method® help to achieve Recovery?
The GRM is just that – a method, a step by step process, an “action program” for unlocking and respecting the emotional experience of our grief. Often, the most recent or presenting loss is actually made more difficult by related experiences from our past which were not recognized or addressed at the time – adding weight to that resulting from the current loss.
Through a defined step-by-step process, the GRM first explores the “old, ineffective tools” we’ve been using, with the belief that it’s hard to learn new tools if we don’t understand why the old ones might not have been effective. Then, the process shifts to the introduction of new tools which can be used across a wide gamut of losses – from persons, to pets, to hopes and dreams and expectations, to those intangible things like trust, safety or faith. At every step the griever is respected, listened to and heard without judgement or analysis, and is supported in identifying and giving voice to the array of emotions that accompany the full extent of the loss. Once the GRM process is completed for one loss, it can be used over and over again, to address other past losses, and to help more quickly address new losses.
How is the Grief Recovery Method® (GRM) different from other grief support programmes?
The GRM is an action-based program that involves reading and writing assignments as outlined in “The Grief Recovery Handbook, the Action Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce and Other Losses.”
The GRM has been shared for over 40 years, on six of seven continents, with the book having been translated into over 20 languages over those years.
The GRM is a time-limited program – with a set number of sessions, depending on whether one is working the program alone or in a group. If done in the group format, it is not a “drop in” group, meaning that those who participate are there throughout the entire program, to help build the sense of safety and trust.
The GRM is facilitated by a Grief Recovery Specialist, certified by the Grief Recovery Institute. These Specialists, are trained to deliver the GRM, and have experience in working with a variety of types of loss, and people from all walks of life. Each of our Specialists has a deep desire to help grieving people.
The GRM is an evidence-based program, having documented statistically significant improvements in grievers’ knowledge, attitudes and behaviours related to grief. More information about the research can be found at: https://www.griefrecoverymethod.com/evidence-based.